You Teach Others How To Treat You By What You Allow, What You Stop And What You Reinforce.
You silently teach others how to treat you by how you treat yourself. Move yourself up your priority list immediately. Make yourself your priority. At the end of the day, you are your longest priority. The one thing you can control is how you treat yourself and that one thing can change everything. You can’t always expect others to treat you right but you can treat yourself right. The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. Life becomes good when you become good to yourself as you are to others. It’s not selfish, it’s called self love.
Be careful what you tolerate, you are teaching people how to treat you. You can’t force people to respect you but you can refuse to tolerate their disrespect. The more chances you give someone, the less respect they start to have for you. They will begin to ignore the standards you have set because they know another chance will be given to them. They are not afraid to lose you because they know that no matter what, you won’t walk away. They get comfortable depending on your forgiveness. Never let a person get comfortable disrespecting you. Don’t tolerate disrespect, even from yourself.
You are not in this world to live up to anyone’s expectations. Live for yourself, for your dreams, for your happiness. You are you and that’s what matters. You are not here merely to make a living, you are here in order to enable the world live more amply, with a greater vision, with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world and you impoverish yourself if you forget that errand. Don’t blame people for disappointing you, blame yourself for expecting too much from them. Be positive, stay happy and don’t let the negativity of this world get you down.
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Important Notice: This post is the second post of an interesting series titled “The Act Of Not Giving A Fuck.” Before reading this post, I advise you visit my blog “Anna’s Styles” for a comprehensive introduction of this post. This is very important if you would like to understand or follow this series. To avoid misconceptions, please read the purpose and point of making this post. Now, you may continue.
DONT TRY>Subtlety #2
To Not Give A Fuck About Something, You Must First Give A Fuck About Something More important Than That Something. Imagine you’re at a grocery store and you watch an elderly lady scream at the cashier, berating him for not accepting her thirty cent coupon. Why does this lady give a fuck? It’s just thirty cents.
I guess it’s been a while. Well, I’m temporarily back and I have lots and lots of emails to attend to. I have decided to summarize or group similar problems in one post so that I can attend to all the emails within a short time.
The title of this post is “Moving On” and this post would have 3 parts which I would post daily. As usual, no information on this blog will reveal any personal detail about anyone. Your Problems Are Safe With Me…
“Everyday gets harder because I can’t learn to get over the things I did in the past”
~ Anonymous To Anna….
Anna: Letting go doesn’t mean giving up… it means moving on. It is one of the hardest things a person can do. Starting at birth, we grasp on to anything we can get our hands on, and hold on as if we will cease to exist when we let go. We feel that letting go is giving up, quitting, and that as we all know is cowardly. But as we grow older we are forced to change our way of thinking. We are forced to realize that letting go means accepting things that cannot be. It means maturing and moving on, no matter how hard you have to fight yourself to do so… Moving On has allowed me to know who I am and to be present in all that I do. I take this forward in my life and in my personal relationships. It is a powerful program and I highly recommend it to anyone wanting to move on with their life. Moving on is a simple thing, what it leaves behind is hard. Don’t ruin a good today by thinking about a bad yesterday. Let it go. Let your past make you better, not bitter.
“I wish I could goback and change my decisions. I wish I could become the person I have always wanted to become.”
Sharing her story with me, I realized that this particular individual was going through a lot of pain because she couldn’t forgive herself. It’s one thing to move on, it’s another thing to forgive yourself. Often, the thought of pain is actually worse that the pain itself. Quietly forgiving yourself and moving on is a gift to God and yourself. To be able to move on, one has to learn to forgive not only the person (or people) who have done one wrong but also oneself. What’s the point of pointing the finger, other than to stall your own progress in moving on? You are responsible for your life. You can’t keep blaming somebody else for your problems either. Life is really about moving on. There are 3 steps to move on. CTRL + ALT + DEL. Control yourself, look for an alternate solution, and delete the situation that hurts you. Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace because to heal a wound, you need to stop touching it.
“The people We Often Trust Betray Us The Most. I Have Trusted With All My Heart In The Past And I Was Broken.I Finally Found Peace And He Has Broken Me As Well. Anna, What Can I Do?
Trying to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you’ve never met. People change for two main reason : Either their minds have been opened or their hearts have been broken. The loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly. The greater the love, the greater the tragedy when it’s over. BUT Sometimes the strongest people are the ones who love beyond all faults, cry behind closed doors and fight battles that nobody knows about. You are unique, Don’t date people who treat you like you aren’t. A break up is like a broken mirror. It is better to leave it broken than hurt yourself trying to fix it. The hardest thing is to hurt yourself for the sake of others’ happiness. Don’t ask why someone keep hurting you. Ask yourself why you’re allowing them. Breaking up is not a stupid thing; instead it makes you a better person and realize your mistakes. Deep down you know it’s best for yourself, but you hate the thought of him being with someone else BUT happiness is the best revenge!!! If your love does not work with that person, it just means that someone else loves you more. Take it and move on!!
Always aim high, work hard, and care deeply about what you believe in. When you stumble, keep faith. When you’re knocked down, get right back up. And never listen to anyone who says you can’t or shouldn’t go on. Sometimes It’s better to be alone because No one can hurt you. The problem is women think he will change, he won’t. And men make the mistake of thinking she will never leave, she will.Nothing is more beautiful than the smile that has struggled through the tears. Be happy with the little you have. There are some people with nothing who still manage to smile. Smiling is the best way to face every problem, to crush every fear, to hide every pain. Some people are going to leave, but that’s not the end of your story. That’s the end of their part in your story. It’s ok if you fall down and lose your spark. Just make sure that when you get back up. You rise as the whole damn fire. Sometimes the wrong choices bring us to the right places. A life without suffering is a life without happiness. Because nothing lasts forever, you better live in the moment.
Worry less. Smile more. Listen carefully. Take responsibility. Accept what you can’t change. Embrace the lessons. Love your life. Move On.