You Teach Others How To Treat You By What You Allow, What You Stop And What You Reinforce.
You silently teach others how to treat you by how you treat yourself. Move yourself up your priority list immediately. Make yourself your priority. At the end of the day, you are your longest priority. The one thing you can control is how you treat yourself and that one thing can change everything. You can’t always expect others to treat you right but you can treat yourself right. The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. Life becomes good when you become good to yourself as you are to others. It’s not selfish, it’s called self love.
Be careful what you tolerate, you are teaching people how to treat you. You can’t force people to respect you but you can refuse to tolerate their disrespect. The more chances you give someone, the less respect they start to have for you. They will begin to ignore the standards you have set because they know another chance will be given to them. They are not afraid to lose you because they know that no matter what, you won’t walk away. They get comfortable depending on your forgiveness. Never let a person get comfortable disrespecting you. Don’t tolerate disrespect, even from yourself.
You are not in this world to live up to anyone’s expectations. Live for yourself, for your dreams, for your happiness. You are you and that’s what matters. You are not here merely to make a living, you are here in order to enable the world live more amply, with a greater vision, with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world and you impoverish yourself if you forget that errand. Don’t blame people for disappointing you, blame yourself for expecting too much from them. Be positive, stay happy and don’t let the negativity of this world get you down.
My boyfriend treats me like trash. He disconnects my call intentionally and ignores me. He always makes me feel worthless. I've told this to him. But he repeats the same. How can I overcome this?
Important Notice: This post is the second post of an interesting series titled “The Act Of Not Giving A Fuck.” Before reading this post, I advise you visit my blog “Anna’s Styles” for a comprehensive introduction of this post. This is very important if you would like to understand or follow this series. To avoid misconceptions, please read the purpose and point of making this post. Now, you may continue.
DONT TRY>Subtlety #2
To Not Give A Fuck About Something, You Must First Give A Fuck About Something More important Than That Something. Imagine you’re at a grocery store and you watch an elderly lady scream at the cashier, berating him for not accepting her thirty cent coupon. Why does this lady give a fuck? It’s just thirty cents.
I guess it’s been a while. Well, I’m temporarily back and I have lots and lots of emails to attend to. I have decided to summarize or group similar problems in one post so that I can attend to all the emails within a short time.
The title of this post is “Moving On” and this post would have 3 parts which I would post daily. As usual, no information on this blog will reveal any personal detail about anyone. Your Problems Are Safe With Me…
“Everyday gets harder because I can’t learn to get over the things I did in the past”
~ Anonymous To Anna….
Anna: Letting go doesn’t mean giving up… it means moving on. It is one of the hardest things a person can do. Starting at birth, we grasp on to anything we can get our hands on, and hold on as if we will cease to exist when we let go. We feel that letting go is giving up, quitting, and that as we all know is cowardly. But as we grow older we are forced to change our way of thinking. We are forced to realize that letting go means accepting things that cannot be. It means maturing and moving on, no matter how hard you have to fight yourself to do so… Moving On has allowed me to know who I am and to be present in all that I do. I take this forward in my life and in my personal relationships. It is a powerful program and I highly recommend it to anyone wanting to move on with their life. Moving on is a simple thing, what it leaves behind is hard. Don’t ruin a good today by thinking about a bad yesterday. Let it go. Let your past make you better, not bitter.
“I wish I could goback and change my decisions. I wish I could become the person I have always wanted to become.”
Sharing her story with me, I realized that this particular individual was going through a lot of pain because she couldn’t forgive herself. It’s one thing to move on, it’s another thing to forgive yourself. Often, the thought of pain is actually worse that the pain itself. Quietly forgiving yourself and moving on is a gift to God and yourself. To be able to move on, one has to learn to forgive not only the person (or people) who have done one wrong but also oneself. What’s the point of pointing the finger, other than to stall your own progress in moving on? You are responsible for your life. You can’t keep blaming somebody else for your problems either. Life is really about moving on. There are 3 steps to move on. CTRL + ALT + DEL. Control yourself, look for an alternate solution, and delete the situation that hurts you. Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace because to heal a wound, you need to stop touching it.
“The people We Often Trust Betray Us The Most. I Have Trusted With All My Heart In The Past And I Was Broken.I Finally Found Peace And He Has Broken Me As Well. Anna, What Can I Do?
Trying to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you’ve never met. People change for two main reason : Either their minds have been opened or their hearts have been broken. The loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly. The greater the love, the greater the tragedy when it’s over. BUT Sometimes the strongest people are the ones who love beyond all faults, cry behind closed doors and fight battles that nobody knows about. You are unique, Don’t date people who treat you like you aren’t. A break up is like a broken mirror. It is better to leave it broken than hurt yourself trying to fix it. The hardest thing is to hurt yourself for the sake of others’ happiness. Don’t ask why someone keep hurting you. Ask yourself why you’re allowing them. Breaking up is not a stupid thing; instead it makes you a better person and realize your mistakes. Deep down you know it’s best for yourself, but you hate the thought of him being with someone else BUT happiness is the best revenge!!! If your love does not work with that person, it just means that someone else loves you more. Take it and move on!!
Always aim high, work hard, and care deeply about what you believe in. When you stumble, keep faith. When you’re knocked down, get right back up. And never listen to anyone who says you can’t or shouldn’t go on. Sometimes It’s better to be alone because No one can hurt you. The problem is women think he will change, he won’t. And men make the mistake of thinking she will never leave, she will.Nothing is more beautiful than the smile that has struggled through the tears. Be happy with the little you have. There are some people with nothing who still manage to smile. Smiling is the best way to face every problem, to crush every fear, to hide every pain. Some people are going to leave, but that’s not the end of your story. That’s the end of their part in your story. It’s ok if you fall down and lose your spark. Just make sure that when you get back up. You rise as the whole damn fire. Sometimes the wrong choices bring us to the right places. A life without suffering is a life without happiness. Because nothing lasts forever, you better live in the moment.
Worry less. Smile more. Listen carefully. Take responsibility. Accept what you can’t change. Embrace the lessons. Love your life. Move On.
I wasn’t expecting to receive any emails from this blog within the first 24 hours of my first blog posts. I was really surprised to find two wonderful emails from two visitors but their identity would obviously be hidden from this blog to respect their privacy.
From the emails received, I was able to detect a similar problem between them. With their permission, I decided to create this post to discuss this challenge with you. Its good to always share a story or advise because you don’t know how many people may need it.
Define Yourself Always, Be Confident. A person should be two things; who and what she wants to be. Be what you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter, don’t mind. Be who you want to be, don’t let people bring you down. Just put yourself out there and hope for the best. Don’t wait for approval in being who you are, don’t take anything from anyone and always stand up for yourself. Carry yourself like a queen and you will attract a king.
Believe In Yourself, believe in your dreams and your potentials. Do not believe in the haters because they believe in nothing. That’s why they are haters. Believe in all you are and acknowledge there’s something inside you that is greater than any obstacles because believing in your abilities affects your motivation, your choices, your toughness, and your determination. If you don’t believe in yourself, then nobody will.
Do Not Question Your Life. Don’t ask yourself too many questions about life because once you do, you’re going to end up going insane looking for the right answer. Most questions in life don’t have answers. Don’t ask why people keep hurting you, ask yourself why you allow that to happen. Concern yourself with not what is right or wrong but what is important. Somebody died last night, but you didn’t. Somebody didn’t wake up this morning, but you did. You’re not lucky, you’re blessed.
Do Not Compare Yourself To Anyone. Don’t compare yourself to others, compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Don’t ever compare yourself to anything in this world because if you do, you’re insulting yourself. Don’t rush the process. Allow yourself to grow at your own pace. Stop comparing your life to what other people are doing. The worst thing you can do to yourself is judge yourself through the eyes of others.
Flee From Jealousy And Envy. Don’t envy anyone because everyone has something no one has. Develop that one thing about yourself and make it outstanding. Don’t waste your time on jealousy because sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind. The race is long and at the end, its only with yourself. Accept what is. Let go of what was. And have faith in what will be. Your Speed doesn’t matter, Forward is Forward. Life is very short, so forgive quickly, believe slowly, love truly, laugh loudly and never avoid anything that makes you smile.
Don’t lose yourself trying to hold onto someone who doesn’t care about losing you. Don’t lose yourself, its good to follow leaders but its even better to become one. Don’t lose yourself in an attempt to recover money, people or your past because those things never last. If you were happy before you met someone, you can be happy after they’re gone. Putting yourself first isn’t selfish, it’s necessary. Be there for others but never leave yourself behind because there are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind.
Motivate Yourself. Everyday you need to look yourself in the eye and ask yourself if this is what you should be doing with your life. Every morning, take a good look at yourself in the mirror and say I am going to have a great day. Every single day, you should wake up and commit yourself to becoming a better person. Remember, it’s easy to get started, but the real fight is to keep going even on the days you don’t feel like it. It’s these days that you want to quit that will make you successful.
Everyone one of us is born with unlimited potential, we have the ability and intelligence to make the impossible possible. Remember, the only person that can hold you back in life is yourself, you just cant dream it, you must believe that you have the power to achieve it. Getting ahead in a difficult profession requires avid faith in yourself. That is why some people with mediocre talent, but with great inner drive, go much further than people with vastly superior talent. Forgive those who insult you, attack you or take you for granted. But more than that, forgive yourself for allowing them to hurt you. Surround yourself with people who have dreams, desire and ambition. They will help you realize your own. Being happy doesn’t mean you’re perfect. It just means you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections. A day without laughter is a day wasted !!!! Never be ashamed of your hustle. Nobody will feed you if you go broke!! One day you will tell your story of how you’re overcome what you’re going through now, and it will become part of someone else’s survival guide.
There is alot to say or write but for now;
You are free, you are powerful, you are good, you are love, you have value, you have a purpose. All is well.